Halfway through The 30 Day Sobriety Solution (& 25 days alcohol-free!)

Halfway through The 30 Day Sobriety Solution (& 25 days alcohol-free!)

Have any of you read this book?  The reviews on Amazon and Reddit all claimed it changes your whole thought process and how you look at alcohol.  As someone who has had an unhealthy on-off relationship with alcohol for over 15 years (and as a registered skeptic), I was skeptical.  But so far, the reviewers are right.  So far, I have actually NOT WANTED to drink at all.  Instead of having fomo, I’m feeling a retrospective fomo on all I missed out on due to alcohol (not being in the moment, but in the moment with alcohol, you know).  I had a completely sober New Year’s Eve for the first time in…16 years?  I wasn’t even pregnant during the holidays, and I can’t think of any time I specifically abstained.  I stayed at home with everyone and made these hot wings along with homemade blue cheese dressing, curly fries (Ore Ida), and homemade milkshakes.  I went to sleep around 11 o’clock with a clear conscience.  I love saying that, but it’s true.  I love going to bed with absolutely nothing plaguing my psyche.

This book has been really helpful so far.  I haven’t been reading every day, more like every other day; I attribute this mostly to starting the book right before Christmas break, but that’s okay.  I’ve definitely found some solutions more helpful than others.  My favorite is having my “mission statement” saved as my phone lock screen so I see it all the time.  It’s basically a statement of intent and purpose of why I’m choosing not to drink.

The Stop Drinking subreddit has still been my touchstone.  I check in there every day.


I set 3 measurable goals.  I didn’t want to do resolutions because no one ever sticks to those!  That’s also why I decided to stop drinking before the holidays, not after.  Measurable goals have a time limit and a way to know you’ve accomplished it.  Resolutions to be “more present” etc seem meaningless to me.

The first is to go to church with Jon and the kids starting on Christmas Eve.  I did that and plan to go whenever they do.  Church isn’t my “thing,” but the one we go to is pretty tame, right down the street, and it isn’t hurting anything by my going.

The second is to weigh myself on New Year’s Day, and lose 10 pounds by April 1.  I weighed 164.5 yesterday.  Not so proud of that, but I’m proud to be alcohol-free.  And if gaining 6 pounds over the holidays kept me alcohol-free, then I’m okay with that.  I can lose it again…it’s not a huge hill to climb.

The third is to have 1 month sober by January 9.  All I have to do to achieve that is keep not drinking.

xx, Bette

{note: I prefer saying “alcohol-free” to “sober.” And I also like “problem drinker” over “alcoholic.” They’re just words, but I like the way they sound!}

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